Friday, September 23, 2005
Yesterday, I became Uncle Bart. Well, not officially, since it’s my girlfriends’ side of the family and we’re not married yet. I’m more of an aspirant-uncle. In the evening, we went to the hospital to get a glimpse of the newborn, and I can tell you she’s a beauty. Her name is Pippa: apparently she’s named after a character in the parent’s favourite soap series. But let’s not get into that.
She’s utterly cute, soft and cuddly, weighs about 3.4 kilos and already has a nice head of dark hair. So far, her eyes are blue, but there were many theories about whether they would turn brown, green or remain blue-ish. Personally, I thought they might get red, but apparently that’s not possible.
You’d think that everyone would like such a sweet little baby, but unfortunately, little Pippa already had mighty enemies. You see, Pipa does not have a mommy and a daddy, but two mommies. So in the eyes of some, including an old geriatric that never had sex in his life but apparently can dictate how other people should behave in this respect, Pippa shouldn’t have been born at all. Because it’s not ‘right’. Because children should have a mother AND a father, in have to be raised in a traditional family. First, let me say that when people should voice such a stupid opinion about Pippa and her loving mothers in my presence, they’d better be aware that they might loose their ability to make children altogether. Secondly, in the presence of so much love of both mothers for this little newborn, I honestly can’t say that I as a man could do better or give more. I don’t think that I’m by default a better partner to my soon-to-be-wife in raising a child in a loving way.
On the positive side, I am glad that I live in a country where gay and lesbian people are on the way to enjoy the same rights as all the rest of us, although there’s still a way to go. Frankly, it shocked me that my girlfriend’s sister’s name was erased with Tipp-ex from the birth certificate, after it became clear that the partner was a woman too. It has to, by law, and by law, she has nothing to do with this child. Which is absolutely, mind bogglingly outrageous!